Monday, October 1, 2012

Who You Are

Some people like to think that it's only teenagers that judge others based on looks, money, intelligence, clothes, cars, pick a category.  Some people think that only teenagers form cliques of like minded sheep.  Unfortunately, most adults do it as well.

Judging others is like a sport for some people.  They take what they think is how someone is supposed to be, live, do and transfer it to everyone else.  If other people don't fit their mold, then those people are belittled, shunned, talked about behind their backs, and treated absolutely horribly in a lot of cases.  These are grown people I'm talking about well over the age of a teenager some even into their 50s and beyond.

These people think that by pointing out the flaws in everyone else their own flaws become less noticeable.  There are even those who believe they have no flaws.  Most though I believe do it out of a huge sense of their own insecurities and thoughts about their own lives.

They attack those who are trying to better themselves saying that the person is too old to be trying to get a college degree.  Yes I've had it said about me.  They attack gay people.  They attack poor people.  They attack overweight people.  They attack just about everyone some of these people and they never think it's unkind or uncalled for.  Some even think they are helping people become better by pointing out their "flaws."

Judging someone else does not define who they are it defines who YOU are.  When we judge someone else for whatever reason it defines what lies truly within us.  Do we love others?  Do we treat others the way we want to be treated?  Or do we attack, condemn, gossip?  What we say and do about and towards others does not define who they are.  No, it defines who we are, who you are.

You cannot control what someone else says or does.  You cannot control the workplace gossip.  You cannot control the bigot, the hater, the envious, the mean.  There is only one person you can control and that is yourself. One person's mind, one person's tongue.  You have the power to define who you are.

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